A little bird was doing what birds do natural & flew south for the winter. A cold winter at that. It was so cold the bird’s wings froze and the little bird fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, thinking to himself that this was the end, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing his wings and helping him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out. The cat then proceeded to clean the bird seemingly clean and right when the bird was uttering the phrase “thank you”….the cat ate him.
Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend
Friends are a rare find now-a-days. With the advancement of technology came the convenience and superficial nature of friendships that were based on words and not genuine affection. In fact, calling these affiliations “friendships” contrast with the definition of the word: wanting the best for the other, sympathetic/empathetic, honesty, mutual respect and understanding, support, trust in one another, reciprocation and to do all of this without compromise or loss of identity.
I don’t think you can measure a true friendship effectively, if you only know this person from social networks and seldom physical encounters. On what basis, can you see consistency in their character? You only know who they want you to know, you only see who they want you to see…smoke and mirrors.
Building and maintaining positive friendships is a lost art. You have to become a judge of character and patient. Everyone presents to you a representative but through time you learn their character and being positive being in your life means their will be some development or positive affect to come from that friendship. You may game emotional security knowing that person is there just to see your growth and you the same.
I’m extremely lucky to have the same group of friends I grew up with since kindergarden and 2nd grade. We have unspoken understanding, from history, we have had trivial fights and arguments (disagreements and once over a piece of bacon) and shared pain/adversity (loss of loved ones and poverty). I know who they are.
Everyone should know who there friends are, they aren’t perfect, they make bad decisions for themselves, but its a reflection of you. If you’re friends constantly are gossiping and back-stabbing one another then what does that say about you? If you’re friends are pulling you down and never seeing toward your progression then what does that say about you.
You are the company you keep…